Adoption and being a parent.

Well here is something completely different to what I normally write about its about us adopting a baby.
It was all talk at the beginning but now we are filling out forms and getting ready to go for it and the emotions are just going wild here. I am going to be a father what eactly does that mean and what type of Dad will I be. What will the baby be and as much as I know God has the perfect person for me am I ready to be all the child needs. I feel like my wife is going to be perfect no matter what but me I hope so. The long wait I think will help me be more ready when the baby comes but then I hope its not too long. Don’t think you can ever be too ready for this in your life. We have been filling out forms and forms and forms, but the best is the excitement we have received from all our family and friends. Our first meeting with the adoption agency was great but the best thing was for my wife to hear the words we tried to 12 years to hear "congratulations you are pregnant". Well that was awesome for her to hear as we had tried for 12 years to fall pregnant but then my wife had to had a emergency hysterectomy
and that was that. So we never ever thought we would hear those words for us. This is the start of a new area in my life please all comments welcome.

The great escape from drugs and the all the world offered

After spending years on drugs and trying everything I could to just fill that place in me that always just felt empty. Well it started 12 years ago and my life has never been th same. I had been going out with this amazing girl who just made me always want to be better than I was. Even though at this time I was still trying to fill that place of unknown origin. Anyways we decided we should get married and I was thinking this must be the next step to filling a void that I had been searching for so we decided let do it. Well as a man and knowing that men always forget anniversaries I decided we should get married on the 31st of December 1999 then every year at new years was also our wedding anniversary and also 2001 was 1 year and so on (great plan). Now all we had to do was find a pastor that would marry us on this date being new years and all. Well this was no easy feat and i did not want some old dude in white doing it so of course I did some inventory. Now heard of this church called the biker church and checked it out on the web and let me tell you they looked like the dudes I wanted to marry us. But they already had plans go figure. Well after trying for some time my now mother-in-law told us ofthis cool couple that had just come down from PE and had started a church and they would be perfect. So of course we set a date to meet these okes and I can remember we had a bit of a tiff in the car just trying to find it, but in the end we arrived at their house in West Beach, Cape Town. So going in was very intimidating there was 4 ladies there and they all seemed super friendly you know the ones that scare you. Like why they being so friendly. Anyway in walks and I'm not lying to you a dude who looks like Jesus he has long brown hair loose clothes and I'm thinking now what has my girlfriend got us into. Well he sat down and we just chatted I was still freaked out but what the heck I was here lets do this thing. After some talk about why we choose the date and all that he says he will do the wedding but only if we come to his church. So we agree and I think well that’s it then. So on the way home I tell my girlfriend that we will go but once we are married we will bail. Well let me tell you my first Sunday in a church for a very long time was great a got there stoned and sat right at the back. I thought the people were crazy all facing the front and lifting their hand to a wall in the hall. Well felt a little uncomfortable during the dudes chat but then at the end all these friendliest people come and invite you to diners, well my now wife is just saying yes to everything.

The 2^nd Sunday much the same as the first including being stoned at church and alot more invites from the friendlies. Well then came the 3^rd Sunday I am running late so don’t have time to get stoned first but hey will do it after. So we arrive and today is different I am feeling very weird being there well that’s because I have been a stoner for so long don’t know how to deal with people straight. The music starts and all the friendlies stand and sing and lift their hands and suddenly I am feeling very emotional. So I sit down and try and figure what is going on. Well I put my head in my hands and cover my face with my very long hair and begin to weep. This freaks me out as I have not cried for a very long time and now I cant control myself. So I hide my my tears by catching then and wiping them on my jeans. Music eventually stops and I compose myself and pretend nothing has happened but I’m freaked out. Then the pastor starts and its like he is talking directly at me at all the things  have done wrong my entire life and it hits me like a ton of bricks. Well that night I surrender my life to Jesus and that hole that I had tried to fill my whole life was filled in an instant. I never did another illegal drug again and suddenly I did not want to swear anymore. My life was changed in an instant that day and I Know that I will always serve Jesus for that He saved my life.

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Supporting The Sharks

 

Alot of people I know from my youth are all around the world. I moved to Cape Town and am loving it here but still cannot support Province which I call Problems. I guess it comes from growing up in Durban and supporting the Sharks when they were still Natal. When I went to my first game they were playing in the B league and were not very good but it was a family affair and a big jol after the game. Kings park has always been know for its after parties as the stadium is surrounded by rugby fields and the all turn into party locations after the game. The place was amazing loads of companies would hire tents put on a huge spreads of food and alcohol. AS kids we played late into the night all over the place and when we grew up it just became a place  have a jol. We would go as a group and have the best times and always have some friends dads party tent to go to. It got better when Natal won the curry cup for the first time in 100 years but the party was now also about the rugby. This is why and will always be the reason I will always be a Shark supporter.

Warner Beach

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Warner Beach is a small resort on the KwaZulu-Natal South Coast set in between Kingsburgh and Amanzimtoti. The beaches here are all shark-protected and patrolled by lifeguards during all school holidays. Warner Beach has a tidal pool and the visitor will find excellent surfing conditions, surf angling and lagoon bathing and boating.

In total there are seven kilometers of beach front where the visitor can enjoy some excellent sea swimming. In the lagoon one can hire rowing boats and canoes, and there is some excellent birdwatching to be found at the bird sanctuary.

Place of play

Our neighbouring town was Amanzimtoti the holiday Mecca for all the Lemmings ( rats that migrate to the ocean once a year and commit suicide ). That’s what we called people from inland mainly Johannesburg they would come down once a year and just do the most crazy things. We had a sign on a wall at the beach that read “ amount of Dutchman that trip over this speedbump” and on the wall we would have a counting system and everytime someone tripped over the speedbump someone would jump up and mark it infront of the person that had just tripped, this had some really mixed emotions. Mostly of the locals laughing their arses off. Now as this town was a holiday destination all the bars, night clubs were situated there and this is were everyone went to party. In the holiday season things would be get drunk pick on the holiday makers and get into a fight. When they left and holiday season was over we would get drunk and fight with each other. You could always go to Toti and watch a fight almost every week it was crazy. We all did it caused trouble with each or joined together to out the Dutchman. Then there is and I think always will be the pecking order to see who is the strongest and best at fighting. In my day it most a friend of mine, lets just call him Sean. He was cool and he never got into a fight unless the other person caused it. I never saw anyone beat him but I saw alot of people try. This was the fighting side of our night life in Toti. Now don’t get me wrong this is not all that happened here it was one of the weekend attractions. We had alot of great times here, there was this bar called “longbar” supposedly the longest bar in southern Africa (whatever). The cool thing about it in those day no ladies were allowed in so all the boys would meet there first get there courage up and meet the ladies at the disco. Sometimes I never found enough courage to even leave the bar. It was a pool bar where you played pool, smoked and drank large beers. This was my town of dreams and disappointments this was Toti.

My Life lesson 1

The place the people and all the happenings around this time were not all great but I believe in some way these are the things that we need to do in order to become the people we are. Also we have the choice to always choose what we want, we cannot blame our situations or the people around us. We are in the places we are because of the choices we made. I sometimes wonder how different things would be if some thing we di could be changed. Look don’t be mistaken I wish I could choose to change alot of things I did but that time is gone and I can only change what I am going to do. Some people think if we go back in time we could change things but for me if those things did not happen then I would not have learnt from them. I have hurt a few people in my past that I am not proud of and am sorry that they got hurt (really). But this is the life we live and I believe that somehow I have learnt to be more careful about the way I handle people today. I am still getting it wrong but hey thats how I learn and of course you can never please everyone that would just be way to boring. So go out there and be all you can be and enjoy doing what your doing with others or change your friends.